The dark nature of why you still struggle with dating, friendships, and having social confidence

Shawn Hesmatpour

Published on: 28/01/2026

A lot of men who struggle to date women, build friendships, or expand their social circle aren’t: • Lazy • Incapable. • Or lack strategy. They’re still living in denial about what they went through growing up. Bullying...

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The reason you struggle to connect with people

Shawn Hesmatpour

Published on: 30/06/2025

For a huge chunk of my 20s, I didn’t realize how much I was contracting my energy. I was obsessed with optimizing my habits, protecting my focus, and staying in my own lane… which, on the surface, looked like discipline. But under the surface?...

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